Friendships in today’s world have lost its meaning. It has become very superficial and mercurial. It is being marred by stiff competition among each other and a desire to be constantly ahead in a rat race.
In life, as one advances up the hierarchy, human relationships lose their meaning and friendships become solely based on fulfillment of ulterior motives. Once motives are fulfilled, people move on to another person. Stiff competition and undercurrent jealousy makes people more secretive, isolated, sly and cunning. They don’t even want to share updates regarding their studying fearing that if they do so, the other person might overtake them.
Thus, it becomes extremely difficult for any relationship or friendship to thrive and blossom in such an inhospitable environment. Until and unless, one can show their vulnerable side and feel completely safe with another, a strong and deep human bond cannot form.
Noone is genuinely happy to see the other person succeed or get ahead in life, rather people find joy in other’s misery and despair. They take disadvantage of other person’s vulnerability and emotions to either manipulate, gaslight or just probe to get the information out, which later they can use to disadvantage of their opponent.
People though now more connected with the help of various social media platforms and become even more distant. Availability of multiple options have ruined the beauty of putting efforts into making a relationship work at any cost because everyone is busy trying to find a better replacement and once they do, they throw you out of their lives.
Thus, I feel it’s completely normal that you don’t have any close friends. As we move ahead in life, we tend to have more acquaintances rather than valuable friendships.
And trust me those you think have really good friends and have enjoy great social dynamics are also unhappy inside. They also must be having snakes in disguise in their circle.
Try to be more spiritual and find good hobbies or goals that keep you busy. Do try finding good friends but don’t beat yourself in the process. If it comes naturally then its okay but if it doesn’t then maybe it’s not meant for you. Don’t lose hope in the meanwhile.
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