It works both ways. Only one party can’t be responsible. Every coin has two sides. “TAALI HUMESHA DO HAATHON SE BAJTI HAI”. (Both hands are needed for a clap).
Not all Indian parents are nice although they all claim to be. Indians practise more of a controlling and helicopter parenting-
Comparing the child with neighbors, cousins, peers (famous sharma ji ka ladka /ladki), undermining the self esteem and confidence since a tender age. If you judge a fish by its ability to fly then it will always think less of itself.
Lots of restrictions on a girl child w.r.t dressing, laughing loudly, sitting properly, speaking softy, making guy friends, going out, maintaining a certain personality to attract good husbands. Sometimes, no proper opportunities and support for studies and career. Thus killing individuality and uniqueness.
Guilt tripping the kids since a young age if they dare speak something which doesn’t agree with the parents and hurts their ego. Not letting them have freedom of speech and expression.
Forcing respect from kids since they are elders and parents, so a kid must respect them. Rather respect is earned.
Hitting and beating kids, using negative reinforcement techniques to discipline the child traumatizes them.
Using kids as fixed deposits for retirement. “Bhudhape ka sahara”.
Checking mobiles and spying on kids giving them no privacy and not trusting them under the sheild of care and concern.
Not letting kids have freedom choosing their career path that makes them happy. Rather forced to chose certain paths only, which will give good returns in future and appaerently valued in society.
No freedom given to chose a life partner more so in case of girls. They have issues in a girl making a guy friend but no issues marrying her to a complete stranger. Even boys forced to marry a girl whom the mother will like and not he himself. Honor killing is quite common in india.
If a child is gay/lesbian, then all hell breaks loose, no moral support given. Very restricted and primitive thinking.
After marriage also, they try to control life of kids. If girl, mother will constantly be in touch with her to teach her to manipulate and control things at her “sasuraal”. And for boys, controlling the boy and DIL so that boy remains in control of mother and pressuring couples to give babies more so a boy child.
Narcissistic and controlling personality and desire to be in ultimate control of the child and his life. Instilling fears in kids heart for personal gains.
Not all parents are nice and practise good parenting. So their children grow aloof, distant and want nothing to do with them when they grow up. Finally, they want to live on their terms and conditions and breather freely.
Some are really nice, supportive and loving parents and they are treated the same by their kids. So it works both ways. Love and respect is a two way street.
Movies like baaghbaan are really messing with minds.
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